When a submissive thinks of service, he might imagine himself trussed up in a maid uniform as he polishes my ​leather ​boots or on his knees as he scrubs my toilet clean with his toothbrush clenched between his teeth. But there are many ways to serve, and some of the ways I cherish the most involve ​​submissives devoting themselves to the most intimate and personal aspects of my lifestyle.

I am a self-professed​ foodie and a lover of exquisite, beautifully presented dining experiences. Submissives seeking to delight my senses are invited to gift me a visit to my all-time favorite restaurant group, Momofuku, to any of the phenomenal Union Square Hospitality Group establishments, or to simply send a gift certificate for OpenTable. Any one of these overtures of service is guaranteed to leave me a happy, satisfied Mistress.

I also adore travel. Seeing the world fills me with inspiration and fuels my creativity, and my travels have given me ideas for play on many occasions. A submissive who desires to feed my wanderlust is welcome to provide accommodations through ​Hotels(dot)com or Airbnb’s gifting options, or to pledge themselves to my traveling comfort through American Airlines and Uber. My travels have been some of the most memorable experiences in my life, and it is truly special when a submissive slavishly helps me achieve such an experience.

Being a Mistress is hard work. Training slaves, disciplining unruly submissives, cultivating an ever-growing coterie of techniques and torments–sometimes it leaves me feeling completely drained. That’s why it’s essential to take time to pamper myself. But submissives may pamper me as well with a visit to the restorative haven of New York’s AIRE Ancient Baths or to the calming and serene Spa at the Mandarin Oriental, knowing that their service will rejuvenate my mind, body, and soul.

Submissives with a fetish for toys and tools can indulge my own love of all things kink by gifting me goods from premiere outlets such as Mr. S Leather, Fetters, or ​Purple Passion. Just as devious minds are always crafting inventive, devilish equipment, I’m always on the lookout for my next new favorite tool to use on an unsuspecting submissive. Be careful though–that might turn out to be you one day. Wouldn’t that be lovely?

One of the most important ways I express myself is through my sense of style, both in public and private. It’s one of both haute couture luxury and contemporary chic, and it never fails to turn heads. Net-a-Porter is where you will find my current fashion obsessions especially to feed my fetish for shoes and submissives who want their Mistress to look her best have the opportunity to reveal their own sense of style: service.

And, as the most loyal and obedient submissives know, sometimes the most important kind of service requires taking care of their Mistress’s everyday needs. For me, this means visiting my Amazon wishlist to see what I require. This is wonderful for submissives who understand the value of the little things in life, and there is certainly a very special place at my feet for those who serve me in such a way.

But no matter how you choose to serve, as long as it’s done with humility, obedience, and respect, you will be rewarded with a proud and pleased Mistress.