TERMINOLOGY

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Age PlayA form of roleplay where the participant(s) act or wish to be treated as a different age than they really are. This can range from a young age (baby) to an old age (grandfather).
Anal HookA piece of bondage equipment where one end is inserted into the anus and the other end attached to something else. Often used in predicament bondage.
ArmbindersA piece of bondage equipment that restrains the submissive’s arms behind their back.
Ass-to-MouthAn activity where an implement is inserted into the anus and after inserted into the mouth. Considered a form of degradation.

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Ball StretchingAn activity where the male’s testicles are pulled away from the body causing pain and/or discomfort.
Ball Weights / StretcherDevices that are attached to the male’s testicles that stretch the scrotum away from the body.
Ballbusting (Tamakeri)An activity where the male’s testicles are struck repeatedly causing light to severe pain.
Bastinado (Foot Torture)A form of corporal punishment where the underside of the submissive’s feet are struck with an implement causing sharp pain. Usually performed with a cane.
BDSMAn abbreviation standing for: Bondage/Discipline, Domination/Submission, and Sadism/Masochism.
BeggingAn activity where the submissive must ask repeatedly for a certain thing, usually involving self humiliation. Can be considered bratty unless the dominant asks for such behavior.
Behavior ModificationAn activity where the dominant changes or alters the behavior of a submissive. Can be done in a short-term play setting or for an extended period of time.
BeltAn everyday garment that can be used as an impact toy.
BlackmailAn activity where the dominant demands something by threatening to expose or humiliate the submissive. Considered edge play and requires consent between both participants.
Blood PlayA fetish activity where the sight, taste, and possibly even extraction of blood is seen as erotic. Can take a variety of forms or be associated with vampirism.
Body WorshipAn activity where the submissive reveres a part of the dominant’s body. This can be performed by looking, complimenting, or touching.
BondageThe practice of consensually tying, binding, or restraining a partner for erotic or aesthetic stimulation.
Bondage TapeSpecialized tape that is made specifically for bondage due to it only adhering to itself rather than hair or skin.
BottomA man or woman who releases some or all control to a dominant. Another name for submissive.
Branding / ScarificationAn activity where the submissive can be marked through a variety of methods resulting in short-term or long-term body alteration.
Breath ControlAn activity where the dominant controls the breathing of a submissive, usually through strangulation. Considered edge play and very risky.
BullwhipAnother form of a single tail that is longer, thicker, and creates a more intense sensation. The main difference is that the bullwhip has a piece of leather called the “fall” that sits between the end of the whip body and the cracker.
Butt PlugA toy similar to the dildo but is meant specifically for the butt due to the flared end. This can be inserted and worn for an extended period of time.

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CageA piece of bondage equipment that a submissive can be confined in. Some are large enough to sleep in and others just large enough to fit into.
Cage TrainingA form of bondage where the submissive in confined inside a cage. In some cases the submissive is being conditioned to be in the cage for increasing lengths of time.
CaneAn impact toy that is long and slender, used to strike the submissive. Can be made out of a variety of materials.
CaningA form of corporal punishment involving the use of a flexible cane. Usually performed on the submissive’s bottom and can leave welt marks.
Castration FantasyA roleplay scenario where the male’s genital are removed.
CatheterA specialized piece of medical equipment that has been adopted by the bdsm community. It is inserted into the urethra until it reaches the bladder, and then allows for urine to drain without force.
CBTAn abbreviation standing for “cock and ball torture”, which is an activity where the dominant inflicts pain and/or discomfort to the male’s genitals.
Chastity / KeyholdingAn activity where a submissive wears a chastity device that prevents masturbation and the dominant holds the keys that allow for release. The duration can be short-term or long-term.
Chastity DeviceA piece of bondage equipment that someone wears that does not allow for sexual stimulation. The device is locked on and can be worn for an extended period of time.
CollarA restraint that is fastened around the neck. It can restrict movement and allow for other restraints to be attached to it.
ConsentAn agreement between two people that gives permission to engage in a specific activity.
Corporal PunishmentA form of punishment where the dominant inflicts pain on the submissive. Can also be referred to as “impact play”.
Corset TrainingAn activity where the submissive is conditioned to wear a constrictive piece of garment called a corset, which constricts the chest and waist to create a more feminine aesthetic.
CropAn impact toy that is long and slender, often with a leather tongue known as a “keeper” at its tip, used to strike the submissive. Can be made out of a variety of materials.
CryingA fetish where pleasure is received by crying or watching another cry.
CuckoldName for the beta male in a cuckolding relationship/scene. He may or may not receive his own gratification from this type of relationship.
CuckoldingAn activity where a woman taunts and teases her submissive partner by engaging in sexual acts with another man. The submissive usually obtains his own happiness by being treated in such a way.
CuckoldressName for the female in a cuckolding relationship/scene.

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DegradationAn activity where the submissive is made to feel less than human through verbal, physical, and psychological means.
Diaper TrainingAn activity where the submissive is conditioned to wear a diaper. Usually associated with adult baby diaper lover (abdl), age play, punishment or degradation.
DildoA toy that emulates the male penis. Can vary in shape, size, color, girth, and in variety of other ways.
Discipline Training / ObedienceA form of behavior modification where the submissive is conditioned by the dominant to behave a certain way. This is usually achieved through corporal punishment.
DominantA man or woman who takes some or all control over a submissive.
DominatrixAnother name for a female dominant. Someone who describes themselves as such is usually a professional.
DommeAnother name for a female dominant.

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E-stim UnitAn electric toy that allows for the dominant to electrically shock the submissive. The top can control the type of shock, the strength, and the duration using the E-stim unit.
Edge PlayTypes of activities that are considered more extreme, therefore requiring more communication and frequent confirmations of consent.
Electro-tortureA group of activities where toys that use electricity are used to inflict pain or extreme sensations.
Emotional Sadism or MasochismA form of play where one receives pleasure by either inflicting (sadist) or receiving (masochist) emotional pain.
EnemaAn activity where a fluid is injected into the anus. Usually done for hygienic reasons, it can also be used as a form of humiliation or torture.
ExhibitionismAn activity where one receives pleasure by being viewed in the nude by a group of people. Can also be a form of humiliation.

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Face FuckingAn activity where the dominant receives felatio by forcfully humping the submissive face.
Feeding / Weight ControlAn activity where the dominant feeds or withholds food from the submissive. In the long-term, can be used to change the submissives diet (similar to behavior modification).
Female SupremacyAn ideology advocating a female-dominated society or female-dominated relationships.
FemdomThis stands for Female domination and is a type of bdsm. Here the woman is the dominant and the male is the submissive.
FetishistSomeone who has a sexual fixation on a certain object or body part.
Financial DominationAn activity where the dominant takes financial ownership over the submissive.
FistingAn activity where the entire hand is inserted into the anus.
FloggerAn impact toy that has many tails. It can create a variety of sensations from thudding to stinging.
FloggingA form of corporal punishment the uses a flogger to inflict a variety of physical sensations on the submissive.
Foot FetishA fetish where one has a strong desire to touch or see someone else’s feet. This can be an asexual fetish or a sexual fetish.
Forced BiAn activity where two or more submissives are coerced by a dominant into activities that are considered homosexual. This is a form of humiliation and edge play.
Forced FeminizationAn activity where a domme dresses a submissive man in women’s clothes as a form of humiliation.
Forced IntoxicationAn activity where the dominant intentionally forces the submissive to be drunk.
Forced MasturbationAn activity where the dominant controls how the submissive masturbates.
Fucking MachineA machine that is used to anally (or vaginally) penetrate the submissive. This machine is motorized and the speed can be controlled by the dominant.

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GagA toy that is usually inserted into the mouth, fastened around the back of the head, and restricts the submissive’s ability to speak.
Golden Showers (Urolagnia)An activity where the dominant urinates on the submissive and/or forces them to drink their urine.

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Hair FetishA fetish where one has a strong destire to touch or see a dominant’s hair. This can manifest itself through hairbrushing or washing.
Hard LimitA strict limit defined by someone that is without any room for exploration or experimentation.
High Heel / Boot / Sneaker / Shoe FetishA fetish where one has a strong desire to touch, wear, or see others wear a certain type of shoe.
Hitachi WandA type of vibrator that consists of a large head that vibrates and a shaft that acts as a handle.
Hood/MaskA garment worn on the head, usually by the submissive that can be used to remove the submissive’s sense of identity. It can also restrict sight, speech, hearing.
Human DollAn activity where the submissive is treated like as a living doll to be used for the dominant’s enjoyment.
Human Furniture / ObjectificationAn activity where the submissive emulates an inanimate object such as a table.
HumblerA piece of bondage equipment that forces a male to kneel or squat by restrainting their testicles behind their bottom.
HumiliationA type of activity where the submissive is made to feel humiliated, ashamed or silly through a variety of means.
HumiliatrixAnother name for a female dominant. Someone who describes themselves as such usually specializes in humiliation.

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Ice PlayAn activity where ice is used to create a variety of physical sensations on the submissive.
InflatableA type of toy that can increase in size by being pumped full of air. This can include dildos, gags, and buttplugs.
InterrogationA form of roleplay where the dominant interrogates the submissive by asking questions and using scare tactics.

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KeyholderA person who holds the key to someone else’s chastity device, thus controlling their sexual gratification.
KidnappingAn activity where the submissive is abducted by the dominant. Considered edge play.

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Latex / Rubber FetishA fetish where one has a strong desire to touch, see, smell or smell rubber/latex items, especially clothing.
Leather FetishA fetish where one has a strong desire to touch, see, smell or smell leather items, especially clothing.
LimitA term defining someone’s prohibited activities in a play or relationship setting.

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MasochistSomeone who enjoys painful or humiliating activities. They often need this for sexual gratification.
Medical PlayA group of activities that are used in a play setting but have real life medical uses. Also a form of roleplay.
Menstruation playAn activity where a domme uses her menstrual blood during play. Can be used as a reward or punishment.
MilkingAn activity where the male submissive has his prostate massaged to create pseudo-ejaculation.
MistressA woman who takes on the dominant role. This is the female equivalent to a Master.
MummificationA form of bondage where a submissive is fully immobilized with the use of duct tape, saran wrap, body bags, and other similar items.

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Needle PlayAn activity that uses needles to create temporary piercings.
Nipple ClampA type of clamp that is placed on one or both of the nipples to create a pinching sensation.
Nipple PlayAn activity that focuses on causing pain to the nipples and breasts.

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Orgasm ControlAn activity where the submissive is teased for an extended period of time and is expected to resist reaching orgasm. Usually involves edging and having multiple ruined orgasms.
Orgasm DenialAn activity where the submissive is forced or forcibly not allowed enjoy the pleasure of an orgasm. Can include the use of pain or lack of pleasurable stimulation.

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PaddleA impact toy that is usually heavy and broad. It has a similar shape to that of an oar, and can sometimes be associated with fraternities.
PaddlingA form of corporal punishment where a broad flat object is used to strike the submissive, usually on the bottom. Common items used include paddles, wooden spoons, and rulers.
Pegging / Anal TrainingAn activity where a woman wears a strap-on and analy penetrates a submissive. Can include training the submissive to gradually accept larger sized strap-ons.
Penis PumpA toy that is used to temporarily enlarge the male penis using suction.
Pet PlayA form of role play where the submissive accepts the role of an pet and is treated by the dominant as such. Usually roles involve cats, dogs, and ponies but can vary depending on each individual’s fetishes.
Pony PlayA form of pet play where the submissive accepts the role of a pony and is treated by the dominant as such. This usually involves specialized equestrian fetish equipment, clothing, and mannerisms.
Predicament BondageAn activity where the submissive is placed either in physical or mental bondage and is forced to make a choice between two or more undesirable options.
Public HumiliationAn activity where the dominant humiliates the submissive or makes the submissive act in a humiliating manner in front of a group of people.
Puppy PlayA form of pet play where the submissive accepts the role of a puppy and is treated by the dominant as such. This usually involves specialized fetish equipment, clothing, and mannerisms.

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Role PlayA group of activities where each person assumes a specific persona and/or mannerisms. In a sense, they are assuming a character to play but in a sexualized realm.
Rope BondageA form of bondage using rope to bind a person. This can include simple binding such as wrist ties or more complex binding such as hog ties and harnesses.

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SadistSomeone who sexually enjoys inflicting pain and/or humiliation on others. They can also enjoy watching others inflict pain or humiliation.
Safe WordA spoken word or phrase that calls for an abrupt stop to the play scene. This is said by either the submissive or dominant when someone has reached their limit.
Sensory DeprivationAn activity where the submissive has one or more senses removed to create a feeling of helplessness and possibly to heighten their remaining senses.
Single TailA type of whip that can vary in length and usually has a cracker on the end.
SissyAn ultra-feminine role played by a submissive that includes feminine routines, behaviors, and activities.
Sissy TrainingAn extreme form of forced feminization where a submissive adopts ultra-feminine behaviors and performs feminine activities under the guidance of a dominant.
SlaveA man or woman who takes on the submissive role in a TPE relationship.
Slave TrainingA more intense form of behavior modification where the submissive is conditioned to behave to the dominant specific standard. This usually involves the submissive accepting a regimen and is practiced over a longer period of time.
SleepsackA piece of bondage equipment intended to fully cover and immobilize a submissive, similar to a cocoon or mummy wrap.
Small Penis HumiliationA form of humiliation where a male is mocked for the size of their penis.
Snake WhipThis is a hybrid between the single tail and bullwhip.
Soft LimitA limit defined by someone that is open to exploration over time.
SoundA specialized piece of medical equipment that has been adopted by the bdsm community. It allows for the male urethra to be penetrated.
SoundingAn activity where a specialized metal rod is inserted into the urethra and moved up and down. This is a form of medical play.
SpeculumA specialized piece of medical equipment that has been adopted by the bdsm community. It is inserted into the rectum to forcefully open the anus.
SpittingA form of humiliation where the dominant spits on or into the submissive.
Spreader BarA restraint that is attached to each leg and forces the wearer to remain at a wide stance.
Strap OnA garment that allows the wearing of a dildo and the ability to be the penetrator during intercourse.
SubmissiveA man or woman who releases some or all control to a dominant.
SuspensionA form of bondage where the submissive is elevated from the ground and is suspended in air. Common suspension tools are rope, chains, or straps.
SwitchA man or a woman who can jump between roles depending on the situation and/or relationship.

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Tease and DenialAn activity where the dominant taunts and teases the submissive in a sexual manner but then denies them any form of sexual release or satisfaction.
Tickle TortureAn activity where the dominant tickles the submissive to the point where it becomes overwhelming.
TopA man or a woman who takes some or all control over a submissive. Another name for dominant.
TPEThis is an acronym meaning Total Power Exchange, which defines an activity and/or relationship where the submissive releases full control to the dominant.
TramplingAn activity where the dominant steps and walks on the submissive. The dominant can be wearing boots, heels, or may go barefoot.

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Vac BedA piece of bondage equipment intended to fully cover and immobilize a submissive by vacuum sealing them inside.
Verbal HumiliationA form of humiliation where the submissive is made fun of, called names, or is reminded of humiliating things they’ve done in the past.
VibratorA toy similar to a dildo but can vibrate to create a more complex sensation. A butt plug can also come with a vibration capability.

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Wartenberg PinwheelA specialized piece of medical equipment that has been adopted by the bdsm community. When rolled on the skin, it activates nerve endings creating a sharp pain.
WaterboardingAn activity where the submissive is subjected to a form of water torture that emulates the feeling of drowning. Is considered a form of edge play.
Wax PlayAn activity where the dominant uses specialized candles to drip hot wax onto the submissive.
WhippingA form of corporal punishment where the dominant can use a variety of whips and methods to strike the submissive. This creates an intense stinging sensation.
WrestlingAn activity where the submissive and dominant wrestle, with the submissive inevitably being overpowered by the dominant. Can include aspects of bullying.
Wrist / Ankle RestraintsRestraints that are fastened around the wrists and ankles. They can restrict movement and allow for other restraints to be attached to them.

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