Frequently Asked Questions

A tribute (from Latin, tributum, contribution) is wealth that a party gives to another as a sign of respect or, as was often the case in historical contexts, of submission or allegiance.

My tribute is determined by the scene details, intricacy, and length. I enjoy a more bespoke approach to my BDSM guidance and play, which is why I require you to fill out my submission form.  I will determine the tribute only after I have been able to review your form but make sure to check out my Opportunities page for ideas. Communication is key to an amazing experience so please feel free to open up!

I believe BDSM and kink is for everyone and I have made it a personal mission to introduce all to the world of FemDomme. I love playing with all types of folks regardless of your gender identity, sexual orientation, and background.

When contacting a Professional Dominatrix, there are many “do’s” and “don’ts” that may be hard to recognize. I recommend reading this informative piece by my friend Domina Esme Crane.

“How to Contact & Serve a Professional Dominatrix”

For in-person appointments, I have very common and simple requirements for new clients.

Submission form: Filling out my form in full with attention to each section will give you the best chance of meeting me. After many years of communication with potential submissives, I have created a form to effectively help me familiarize myself with you and determine our compatibility. If you are unsure what your interests are, do your best in describing what you think you want to experience and why. Single word answers do not leave much to be desired. If there is a language barrier, please note that in your form.

References: I need two (2) current references from an active provider. You must have seen them in the last two years and you must provide their name, website and email.

If you are unable to provide references (such as a novice), I require a paid consultation call before I can determine if we are a good fit. You are welcome to ask me questions during our call. 🙂

Deposit: To ensure your earnestness, I ask for a deposit to hold your appointment. I offer many discrete deposit options.

For virtual only appointments, please fill out my form. References not required.

“By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.”
―Benjamin Franklin

I appreciate those who take the time to make a good impression. A few keys ways to start off on the right foot:

• Re-read my emails and make sure you have followed all instructions such as confirming your appointment at the required time.

• Practice good personal hygiene – freshly showered, teeth brushed, and no heavy cologne/perfumes please.

• Tidy clothing – sloppiness is not attractive.

• Activity specific preparation – If you have requested certain types of play that require you to be “extra” clean, please take the necessary steps to do just that.

• Tribute placed in an envelope – for extra brownie points, a handwritten note or card will put a smile on my face.

First, take a deep breath. I know you may be nervous but trust me, you are going to have the time of your life!  I have put together a list of common first timer questions:

• What is the appropriate way to address you? Mistress Lucy – I do allow a simple “Mistress,” “Queen” and/or “Goddess” to be used as well. For those who earn the privilege, I personally enjoy “Daddy Lucy.”

• Will I run into other people? No, not at all. My studio is private and secure.

• Will my identity be safe? Yes! I do not take any photos or videos unless I have explicit consent.

• I am not sure what I like and don’t like, will we have a chance to talk? Yes, at the start of the appointment, we will have a few minutes to speak to ease any concerns.

• Will you leave marks? Not unless you want them. I respect all limits.

• Do you use a safeword? Yes and you are allowed to use it at any time.

• What are the risks? BDSM is inherently risky. (see RACK) However, we will discuss the specific risks of your specific activities at the start of our scene.

Yes, I would love that! I find that a nice meal before or after our play time can enhance the overall experience. If you have perused my social media, you might notice I am a huge foodie that enjoys a nice glass of wine or bubbles. To schedule a meal or drink with our play, please make sure to clearly request the option on my submission form. Tribute varies depending on our overall time together. The Dinner Date or The Social Rendezvous options can be added to any real time appointments or be scheduled separately.

Over the years, I have learned that my limits and boundaries go beyond just activities I do not enjoy. I have learned to preserve my mental health and emotional well-being by being very clear of my boundaries. I will not tolerate emotional dumping, entitlement to my time and energy, lack of self-awareness, and self serving toxic behavior. As a certified Life Coach, I offer an opportunity for those who would like to work on themselves only through a healthy dedicated avenue – you may email me to inquire.

I do not offer the following activities: fecal play, wrestling, intimate and nude body worship, overly scripted scenes, roman showers, any illegal acts, and any play that causes long lasting damage.

*If you claim to not have any limits or boundaries, we will not be a good match.  

Monday thru Saturday
10:00am to 10:00pm
*not including overnight appointments

At my discretion, I do offer appointments outside of my preferred hours. Additional tribute may apply.

For real time, I prefer at least 24 to 48 hours notice especially with first time clients.

My modern and fully equipped private studio is located in Brooklyn, New York right off the JMZ subway line. It is only a 20 minute subway ride from lower Manhattan and is easily accessible by car.

If you prefer a Manhattan location, I have access to a variety of options. However additional tribute is required to cover the rental cost. I require at least a 72-hour notice.

When I travel, I prefer to conduct my appointments in fully equipped play spaces if available. Exact location is dependent on each city.

Yes, I do require a deposit from all clients to confirm an in-person appointment. It is a show of good faith that you will keep your appointment or provide adequate notice (at least 48 hours) of any cancellation or changes. When I travel, I require a larger deposit to cover the upfront cost of my trip.

I offer many discrete deposit options.

Yes and No.

Providing references is common practice with the industry. It is important in helping establish an initial trust between you and I. This is a safety measure as well as a show of respect and accountability. I require the following:

Two (2) current and active Providers. Please provide their name, website, and email. *Retired or non-current references may be accepted at my discretion. Please provide their name, website, social media, and email.

I do not call to confirm references. Please provide an email.

For novices: In place of references, I require a paid consultation call which will allow us to get better acquainted and will help me determine if we are a good fit.  Once you fill out my submission form, I will provide clear instructions on how to schedule your consultation call.

I understand that emergencies and other unexpected life events can come up and throw a monkey wrench in our plans. However, last minute cancellations are quite disruptive to my schedule.

Please be respectful of my time and provide me with at least 48 hours notice for general cancellations. If you need to cancel at the last minute, you will forfeit your deposit and may be subjected to a cancellation fee before I will allow any future bookings.

To reschedule, please provide me with at least 48 hours notice and your deposit will be applied to your new appointment. I allow for one (1) reschedule which must take place within a month. If you need to reschedule at the last minute, you will forfeit your deposit.

Yes, I do accommodate outcall appointments but at my discretion. My tribute varies depending on location including travel cost.

I prefer the tribute be given in cash, but once a relationship is established other options are available.

No, my tribute is not negotiable. If you are unable to afford an opportunity to serve me in-person, you may request a virtual experience or connect with me through SextPanther.

Yes, of course!

As a deeply kinky Female Dominant, I enjoy a wide variety of activities, kinks, and fetishes.  Please visit the What do you seek? page of my website to read a little more about how your time with me could be. I do not offer a typical interest list as I have too many to list plus I am always evolving and discovering new activities I enjoy. Please feel free to inquire about specific activities via my submission form.

I am open to reasonable outfit requests if done in advance. However, as a Dominant I prefer to wear what makes me feel powerful, sexy, and comfortable. I have a large fetish and non-fetish wardrobe that I enjoy wearing, but a polite and respectful request is expected. I reserve the right to decline if I feel the outfit does not fit our scene.

If you have an extremely specific outfit request feel free to inform me, but you may be required to provide the outfit.

The best place to start is to read my Please Me page. In general, here are a few items that always put a smile on my face.

• Champagne – Bollinger, Laurent-Perrier, Perrier Jouet, Krug, or anything unique.
• Le Labo candles
• Wolford hosiery – size small
• Harmless coconut water – only this specific brand

Possibly.

Being a personal slave is not an easy task. It requires a lot of time, effort, and training. For many, the fantasy versus the reality of being a personal slave is not what they expected. It is neither a free session nor a way to get your kinky rocks off – it is HARD WORK.

Being a personal slave is reserved for those who truly have a service-oriented mentality and who gain a sense of value and worth through their devotion and service to another. For the right person, it can be extremely rewarding and fulfilling.

If you would like to earn the chance to become my personal slave, I require you to start off as a loyal submissive/client. Through regular real time sessions, I am able to assess our compatibility and determine your capabilities. It can be a long process filled with many tests and challenges. I take slave training very seriously and would require you to do so as well.

Yes I do! For those wanting to worship one of my worn items, I offer panties, stockings, socks, shoes, and more. Please send me an email with a respectful request. Provide the following:

• What would you like to purchase and how many?
• Do you have any specific requests?
• What is your shipping address?

Yes. Though I am based in NYC, I tend to travel to San Francisco (a few times a year) and Boston (twice a year) for play. If you would like to be notified when I am in those cities, please sign up for my mailing list or visit my Twitter.

If you would like to make a private travel request where I travel to you, please fill out my submission form. You will be required to cover my airfare, transfers, accommodation, and time spent together. A deposit will be required in order to secure my travel. When filling out my form, please provide as much information as possible so we can arrange things most efficiently. I will need to know the following information:

• Where would you like me to travel to and potential dates
• How long would you like me to stay?
• How many hours per day would you like to spend with me?

Yes! Luckily we live in a technologically advanced world which allows us to connect even if we are not in the same city. A few convenient options I offer are SextPanther, Niteflirt, and virtual appointments. Please fill out my submission form to inquire.