Terminology

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H I J K L M N
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A
Age Play A form of roleplay where the participant(s) act or wish to be treated as a different age than they really are. This can range from a young age (baby) to an old age (grandfather).
Anal Hook A piece of bondage equipment where one end is inserted into the anus and the other end attached to something else. Often used in predicament bondage.
Armbinders A piece of bondage equipment that restrains the submissive’s arms behind their back.
Ass-to-Mouth An activity where an implement is inserted into the anus and after inserted into the mouth. Considered a form of degradation.

B
Ball Stretching An activity where the male’s testicles are pulled away from the body causing pain and/or discomfort.
Ball Weights / Stretcher Devices that are attached to the male’s testicles that stretch the scrotum away from the body.
Ballbusting (Tamakeri) An activity where the male’s testicles are struck repeatedly causing light to severe pain.
Bastinado (Foot Torture) A form of corporal punishment where the underside of the submissive’s feet are struck with an implement causing sharp pain. Usually performed with a cane.
BDSM An abbreviation standing for: Bondage/Discipline, Domination/Submission, and Sadism/Masochism.
Begging An activity where the submissive must ask repeatedly for a certain thing, usually involving self humiliation. Can be considered bratty unless the dominant asks for such behavior.
Behavior Modification An activity where the dominant changes or alters the behavior of a submissive. Can be done in a short-term play setting or for an extended period of time.
Belt An everyday garment that can be used as an impact toy.
Blackmail An activity where the dominant demands something by threatening to expose or humiliate the submissive. Considered edge play and requires consent between both participants.
Blood Play A fetish activity where the sight, taste, and possibly even extraction of blood is seen as erotic. Can take a variety of forms or be associated with vampirism.
Body Worship An activity where the submissive reveres a part of the dominant’s body. This can be performed by looking, complementing, or touching.
Bondage The practice of consensually tying, binding, or restraining a partner for erotic or aesthetic stimulation.
Bondage Tape Specialized tape that is made specifically for bondage due to it only adhering to itself rather than hair or skin.
Bottom A man or woman who releases some or all control to a dominant. Another name for submissive.
Branding / Scarification An activity where the submissive can be marked through a variety of methods resulting in short-term or long-term body alteration.
Breath Control An activity where the dominant controls the breathing of a submissive, usually through strangulation. Considered edge play and very risky.
Bullwhip Another form of a single tail that is longer, thicker, and creates a more intense sensation. The main difference is that the bullwhip has a piece of leather called the “fall” that sits between the end of the whip body and the cracker.
Butt Plug A toy similar to the dildo but is meant specifically for the butt due to the flared end. This can be inserted and worn for an extended period of time.

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Cage A piece of bondage equipment that a submissive can be confined in. Some are large enough to sleep in and others just large enough to fit into.
Cage Training A form of bondage where the submissive in confined inside a cage. In some cases the submissive is being conditioned to be in the cage for increasing lengths of time.
Cane An impact toy that is long and slender, used to strike the submissive. Can be made out of a variety of materials.
Caning A form of corporal punishment involving the use of a flexible cane. Usually performed on the submissive’s bottom and can leave welt marks.
Castration Fantasy A roleplay scenario where the male’s genital are removed.
Catheter A specialized piece of medical equipment that has been adopted by the bdsm community. It is inserted into the urethra until it reaches the bladder, and then allows for urine to drain without force.
CBT An abbreviation standing for “cock and ball torture”, which is an activity where the dominant inflicts pain and/or discomfort to the male’s genitals.
Chastity / Keyholding An activity where a submissive wears a chastity device that prevents masturbation and the dominant holds the keys that allow for release. The duration can be short-term or long-term.
Chastity Device A piece of bondage equipment that someone wears that does not allow for sexual stimulation. The device is locked on and can be worn for an extended period of time.
Collar A restraint that is fastened around the neck. It can restrict movement and allow for other restraints to be attached to it.
Consent An agreement between two people that gives permission to engage in a specific activity.
Corporal Punishment A form of punishment where the dominant inflicts pain on the submissive. Can also be referred to as “impact play”.
Corset Training An activity where the submissive is conditioned to wear a constrictive piece of garment called a corset, which constricts the chest and waist to create a more feminine aesthetic.
Crop An impact toy that is long and slender, often with a leather tongue known as a “keeper” at its tip, used to strike the submissive. Can be made out of a variety of materials.
Crying A fetish where pleasure is received by crying or watching another cry.
Cuckold Name for the beta male in a cuckolding relationship/scene. He may or may not receive his own gratification from this type of relationship.
Cuckolding An activity where a woman taunts and teases her submissive partner by engaging in sexual acts with another man. The submissive usually obtains his own happiness by being treated in such a way.
Cuckoldress Name for the female in a cuckolding relationship/scene.

D
Degradation An activity where the submissive is made to feel less than human through verbal, physical, and psychological means.
Diaper Training An activity where the submissive is conditioned to wear a diaper. Usually associated with adult baby diaper lover (abdl), age play, punishment or degradation.
Dildo A toy that emulates the male penis. Can vary in shape, size, color, girth, and in variety of other ways.
Discipline Training / Obedience A form of behavior modification where the submissive is conditioned by the dominant to behave a certain way. This is usually achieved through corporal punishment.
Dominant A man or woman who takes some or all control over a submissive.
Dominatrix Another name for a female dominant. Someone who describes themselves as such is usually a professional.
Domme Another name for a female dominant.

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E-stim Unit An electric toy that allows for the dominant to electrically shock the submissive. The top can control the type of shock, the strength, and the duration using the E-stim unit.
Edge Play Types of activities that are considered more extreme, therefore requiring more communication and frequent confirmations of consent.
Electro-torture A group of activities where toys that use electricity are used to inflict pain or extreme sensations.
Emotional Sadism or Masochism. A form of play where one receives pleasure by either inflicting (sadist) or receiving (masochist) emotional pain.
Enema An activity where a fluid is injected into the anus. Usually done for hygienic reasons, it can also be used as a form of humiliation or torture.
Exhibitionism An activity where one receives pleasure by being viewed in the nude by a group of people. Can also be a form of humiliation.

F
Face Fucking An activity where the dominant receives felatio by forcfully humping the submissive face.
Feeding / Weight Control An activity where the dominant feeds or withholds food from the submissive. In the long-term, can be used to change the submissives diet (similar to behavior modification).
Female Supremacy An ideology advocating a female-dominated society or female-dominated relationships.
Femdom This stands for Female domination and is a type of bdsm. Here the woman is the dominant and the male is the submissive.
Fetishist Someone who has a sexual fixation on a certain object or body part.
Financial Domination An activity where the dominant takes financial ownership over the submissive.
Fisting An activity where the entire hand is inserted into the anus.
Flogger An impact toy that has many tails. It can create a variety of sensations from thudding to stinging.
Flogging A form of corporal punishment the uses a flogger to inflict a variety of physical sensations on the submissive.
Foot Fetish A fetish where one has a strong desire to touch or see someone else’s feet. This can be an asexual fetish or a sexual fetish.
Forced Bi An activity where two or more submissives are coerced by a dominant into activities that are considered homosexual. This is a form of humiliation and edge play.
Forced Feminization An activity where a domme dresses a submissive man in women’s clothes as a form of humiliation.
Forced Intoxication An activity where the dominant intentionally forces the submissive to be drunk.
Forced Masturbation An activity where the dominant controls how the submissive masturbates.
Fucking Machine A machine that is used to anally (or vaginally) penetrate the submissive. This machine is motorized and the speed can be controlled by the dominant.

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Gag A toy that is usually inserted into the mouth, fastened around the back of the head, and restricts the submissive’s ability to speak.
Golden Showers (Urolagnia) An activity where the dominant urinates on the submissive and/or forces them to drink their urine.

H
Hair Fetish A fetish where one has a strong desire to touch or see a dominant’s hair. This can manifest itself through hair brushing or washing.
Hard Limit A strict limit defined by someone that is without any room for exploration or experimentation.
High Heel / Boot / Sneaker / Shoe Fetish A fetish where one has a strong desire to touch, wear, or see others wear a certain type of shoe.
Hitachi Wand A type of vibrator that consists of a large head that vibrates and a shaft that acts as a handle.
Hood/Mask A garment worn on the head, usually by the submissive that can be used to remove the submissive’s sense of identity. It can also restrict sight, speech, hearing.
Human Doll An activity where the submissive is treated like as a living doll to be used for the dominant’s enjoyment.
Human Furniture / Objectification An activity where the submissive emulates an inanimate object such as a table.
Humbler A piece of bondage equipment that forces a male to kneel or squat by restraining their testicles behind their bottom.
Humiliation A type of activity where the submissive is made to feel humiliated, ashamed or silly through a variety of means.
Humiliatrix Another name for a female dominant. Someone who describes themselves as such usually specializes in humiliation.

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Ice Play An activity where ice is used to create a variety of physical sensations on the submissive.
Inflatable A type of toy that can increase in size by being pumped full of air. This can include dildos, gags, and buttplugs.
Interrogation A form of roleplay where the dominant interrogates the submissive by asking questions and using scare tactics.

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Keyholder A person who holds the key to someone else’s chastity device, thus controlling their sexual gratification.
Kidnapping An activity where the submissive is abducted by the dominant. Considered edge play.

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Latex / Rubber Fetish A fetish where one has a strong desire to touch, see, smell or smell rubber/latex items, especially clothing.
Leather Fetish A fetish where one has a strong desire to touch, see, smell or smell leather items, especially clothing.
Limit A term defining someone’s prohibited activities in a play or relationship setting.

M
Masochist Someone who enjoys painful or humiliating activities. They often need this for sexual gratification.
Medical Play A group of activities that are used in a play setting but have real life medical uses. Also a form of roleplay.
Menstruation play An activity where a domme uses her menstrual blood during play. Can be used as a reward or punishment.
Milking An activity where the male submissive has his prostate massaged to create pseudo-ejaculation.
Mistress A woman who takes on the dominant role. This is the female equivalent to a Master.
Mummification A form of bondage where a submissive is fully immobilized with the use of duct tape, saran wrap, body bags, and other similar items.

N
Needle Play An activity that uses needles to create temporary piercings.
Nipple Clamp A type of clamp that is placed on one or both of the nipples to create a pinching sensation.
Nipple Play An activity that focuses on causing pain to the nipples and breasts.

O
Orgasm Control An activity where the submissive is teased for an extended period of time and is expected to resist reaching orgasm. Usually involves edging and having multiple ruined orgasms.
Orgasm Denial An activity where the submissive is forced or forcibly not allowed enjoy the pleasure of an orgasm. Can include the use of pain or lack of pleasurable stimulation.

P
Paddle A impact toy that is usually heavy and broad. It has a similar shape to that of an oar, and can sometimes be associated with fraternities.
Paddling A form of corporal punishment where a broad flat object is used to strike the submissive, usually on the bottom. Common items used include paddles, wooden spoons, and rulers.
Pegging / Anal Training An activity where a woman wears a strap-on and analy penetrates a submissive. Can include training the submissive to gradually accept larger sized strap-ons.
Penis Pump A toy that is used to temporarily enlarge the male penis using suction.
Pet Play A form of role play where the submissive accepts the role of an pet and is treated by the dominant as such. Usually roles involve cats, dogs, and ponies but can vary depending on each individual’s fetishes.
Pony Play A form of pet play where the submissive accepts the role of a pony and is treated by the dominant as such. This usually involves specialized equestrian fetish equipment, clothing, and mannerisms.
Predicament Bondage An activity where the submissive is placed either in physical or mental bondage and is forced to make a choice between two or more undesirable options.
Public Humiliation An activity where the dominant humiliates the submissive or makes the submissive act in a humiliating manner in front of a group of people.
Puppy Play A form of pet play where the submissive accepts the role of a puppy and is treated by the dominant as such. This usually involves specialized fetish equipment, clothing, and mannerisms.

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R
Role Play A group of activities where each person assumes a specific persona and/or mannerisms. In a sense, they are assuming a character to play but in a sexualized realm.
Rope Bondage A form of bondage using rope to bind a person. This can include simple binding such as wrist ties or more complex binding such as hogties and harnesses.

S
Sadist Someone who sexually enjoys inflicting pain and/or humiliation on others. They can also enjoy watching others inflict pain or humiliation.
Safe Word A spoken word or phrase that calls for an abrupt stop to the play scene. This is said by either the submissive or dominant when someone has reached their limit.
Sensory Deprivation An activity where the submissive has one or more senses removed to create a feeling of helplessness and possibly to heighten their remaining senses.
Single Tail A type of whip that can vary in length and usually has a cracker on the end.
Sissy An ultra-feminine role played by a submissive that includes feminine routines, behaviors, and activities.
Sissy Training An extreme form of forced feminization where a submissive adopts ultra-feminine behaviors and performs feminine activities under the guidance of a dominant.
Slave A man or woman who takes on the submissive role in a TPE relationship.
Slave Training A more intense form of behavior modification where the submissive is conditioned to behave to the dominant specific standard. This usually involves the submissive accepting a regimen and is practiced over a longer period of time.
Sleepsack A piece of bondage equipment intended to fully cover and immobilize a submissive, similar to a cocoon or mummy wrap.
Small Penis Humiliation A form of humiliation where a male is mocked for the size of their penis.
Snake Whip This is a hybrid between the single tail and bullwhip.
Soft Limit A limit defined by someone that is open to exploration over time.
Sound A specialized piece of medical equipment that has been adopted by the bdsm community. It allows for the male urethra to be penetrated.
Sounding An activity where a specialized metal rod is inserted into the urethra and moved up and down. This is a form of medical play.
Speculum A specialized piece of medical equipment that has been adopted by the bdsm community. It is inserted into the rectum to forcefully open the anus.
Spitting A form of humiliation where the dominant spits on or into the submissive.
Spreader Bar A restraint that is attached to each leg and forces the wearer to remain at a wide stance.
Strap On A garment that allows the wearing of a dildo and the ability to be the penetrator during intercourse.
Submissive A man or woman who releases some or all control to a dominant.
Suspension A form of bondage where the submissive is elevated from the ground and is suspended in air. Common suspension tools are rope, chains, or straps.
Switch A man or a woman who can jump between roles depending on the situation and/or relationship.

T
Tease and Denial An activity where the dominant taunts and teases the submissive in a sexual manner but then denies them any form of sexual release or satisfaction.
Tickle Torture An activity where the dominant tickles the submissive to the point where it becomes overwhelming.
Top A man or a woman who takes some or all control over a submissive. Another name for dominant.
TPE This is an acronym meaning Total Power Exchange, which defines an activity and/or relationship where the submissive releases full control to the dominant.
Trampling An activity where the dominant steps and walks on the submissive. The dominant can be wearing boots, heels, or may go barefoot.

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V
Vac Bed A piece of bondage equipment intended to fully cover and immobilize a submissive by vacuum sealing them inside.
Verbal Humiliation A form of humiliation where the submissive is made fun of, called names, or is reminded of humiliating things they’ve done in the past.
Vibrator A toy similar to a dildo but can vibrate to create a more complex sensation. A butt plug can also come with a vibration capability.

W
Wartenberg Pinwheel A specialized piece of medical equipment that has been adopted by the bdsm community. When rolled on the skin, it activates nerve endings creating a sharp pain.
Waterboarding An activity where the submissive is subjected to a form of water torture that emulates the feeling of drowning. Is considered a form of edge play.
Wax Play An activity where the dominant uses specialized candles to drip hot wax onto the submissive.
Whipping A form of corporal punishment where the dominant can use a variety of whips and methods to strike the submissive. This creates an intense stinging sensation.
Wrestling An activity where the submissive and dominant wrestle, with the submissive inevitably being overpowered by the dominant. Can include aspects of bullying.
Wrist / Ankle Restraints Restraints that are fastened around the wrists and ankles. They can restrict movement and allow for other restraints to be attached to them.

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